Remember what your mama said in a previous letter that God works together everything for our good? “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28). Well, mama got to experience it first hand this week. Two weeks ago, your daddy and I found out we were pregnant. We were ecstatic, already planning for you and baby to be best of friends and grow up together, only 14 months a part. But, God had different plans. I discovered blood when I went to the bathroom this Wednesday, and my heart sunk, I knew this was it, this was what I was so anxious about happening, was happening to me. We went as a whole family to the ultrasounds to check if baby was okay, mama knew she wasn’t strong enough to withstand it on her own. The last one, the ultrasound guy was apologizing for not finding anything. It was looked so empty on the big black screen, like a baby never existed. I looked over at daddy when the ultrasound guy broke the news to us, and his eyes sunk and looked defeated. I never saw your dad look so sad before. You see, both your mama and daddy were hoping a very little bit that, somehow baby Israel would still be a happy baby in the inside of mama’s womb despite all the signs of miscarriage. But baby was not able to find the right home in mama’s womb. And mama and daddy had to come to peace with that.
It felt so strange. How could I be so pregnant, one second and the next second, be not? The nausea went away, the bloating shrunk, and the bleeding stopped. I wanted to despair in that moment, and believe that God was not good and not loving. How could He allow us to hope and dream, and then take it away? But, daughter, I was reminded of previous times of darkness, when mama felt broken and frail, and doubted God’s goodness. Times, the future looked bleak and foggy. Would I trust in God’s sovereignty or would I despair and have fear? Even, when I wasn’t sure what would happened, I chose to trust in God, and He never let me down.
I was reminded of the time when mama broke up with her first boyfriend. It was a really tough time back then, even though it seems like a cakewalk compared to what I am going through now. Similarly, mama had expectations, hopes and dreams with this person that went unfulfilled. The future looked bleak and uncertain. Once, I had someone I was certain I would marry, and the next moment I was a single woman with no marital prospects. Mama never dated before, and I was sure that I would marry the first person I dated. I had fear that I would still be single in my 40’s still living at home! But, I knew that I had to trust God when He told me to let this person go, and that I had to trust Him with my future. Fast forward, one year later, I meet your daddy. I thought he looked really cute in his navy blazer and nice tan skin tone. He had a great smile and smooth voice. My heart leapt a little, the first time I met him, and then later I find out he’s the new youth pastor of the church… haha. The rest.. well you know what happens.
All goes to say, that even in that point of my life, the future didn’t look so promising, but God had a really good plan for mama. Now, I am married to a wonderful man who makes me laugh every single day, and is the best daddy to you. And, daughter I have you, my lovely daughter who I love with my whole heart. You know, even this morning before I left for work, you were sitting up in your pack n’ play, cooing and bobbing your little head. It took all my resolve to say goodbye to you, because all I wanted to do was snuggle with you for the whole day and admire your cuteness. So, my daughter, you are mama’s living evidence that all things work together for good, for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.
Love you my sweet one,
your mama